One Year Reflections (Part 2, in which shit got real)

Pardon my French above, monsieur.

One of our first discussions in my Creative Writing class about what defines ‘good’ writing inevitably finds its way to a tangent about swearing in writing. My answer is always some version of the same. “If every fiber of that character you created screams that he or she would drop an F-bomb at the moment, by all means, you better drop that F-bomb. You must be true to your characters, after all.”

So yes, every fiber of my being pronounces this moment as The One in Which Shit Got Real. Capitalized. A la the titles of Friends episodes.

Thursday, February 23, 2012

I had been home from the hospital for a couple days. My fiance began vying for the Greatest Person Ever award as he gave me daily blood thinner shots to my abdomen. At that point I had probably taken two showers since the morning before surgery. Those were the days where the shower took most of my energy and was my achievement for the day. Both of those required sitting in a shower chair and holding onto my drain. Ew. Drain is not a word that should have a personal pronoun in front of it. It collected you know, stuff, from my… wound. It was nasty. It was sewn into my insides and hung from me. Barf. Barf. Barf. Barf. I am fighting nausea typing this as I so cruelly make you nauseous, too.

The worst moment with that damn thing was in the hospital. Once, as I waddled to the restroom, pulled up my gown, and proceeded to use the restroom, the most excruciating pain took over. My nurse (who I LOVED– it was a simple mistake is all) had forgotten to attach my drain back to my gown, as I stood straight, the weight of the drain plummeted to the ground, only to bounce back as a result of the piece that was sewn into me. I screamed bloody murder and my mom and James saw me, gown up, white as a ghost. I was fine. Just scarred for life. 🙂 Someone did a darn good job sewing that thing into me.

If you continued past that point, my god do I love you and feel so grateful for you. Thanks for reading.

Anywho, today was to be a great day– the drain would be removed!!!! I waited for James to get home from school and we made our way to the office of the oncologist who did my surgery. The appointment had the basic check-up elements, which is probably why I was so unprepared for what came next.

When I thought we were on our way out, the nurse mentioned Dr. T would see us before we go. His bedside manner was somewhat non-existent, so we assumed this was the obligatory, ‘Nice to see you, see you in a week, we’ll keep you posted on the results’ conversation.

This moment is about as clear in my brain as my car accident. There was some cutting to the chase. Results? We have them? No one mentioned…Then the word. Malignant. Is that the bad one? No, that’s benign. Who’s in that old photo with Dr. T? Is that a famous person? This office needs an update. This wood paneling’s gotta go. No. No, wait. This is the bad one. Malignant is bad. Ewing’s sarcoma. What’s that? I’ve heard that. That’s bad. That’s bad, right? I have cancer? You have cancer.

And just like that, we were leaving the office. News delivered and doctor out. I think we actually sat in there alone for a couple stunned minutes. We managed to make our way to the car, drive home, order pizza, and eat it, tasting nothing, and feeling nothing and everything.

And that was February 23, 2012– the day cancer was added to my regular vocabulary.


That day, it was Ewing’s sarcoma. There was talk of delaying or canceling the wedding. Chemo seemed to be the next step. God bless a very persistent pathologist at Alexian Brothers who felt everything didn’t quite add up and wanted additional analysis. It would be weeks of phone calls to doctors, trips to the hospital to authorize shipment of tissue samples, conversations with the insurance company to check coverage of these additional pathology reports. My tumors would travel to University of Chicago and Johns Hopkins and have chromosomal analysis done at the Mayo Clinic.


(These, my friends, are writings from the ancient Minoan civilization. Ah, just kidding. They’re pathology reports. They may as well be ancient writings, though, for how much I understood them. Commence a crash course in oncology via Google. )

The diagnosis would eventually change. It was rare. Very rare. But treatable. Chemo no longer considered necessary. Endometrial stromal sarcoma, nice to meet you. The name’s Jaclyn.


5 thoughts on “One Year Reflections (Part 2, in which shit got real)

  1. That last line is pretty BA. Then again, you are the BA who, three days after rocking Medieval Times, began kicking cancer’s ass (according to your calendar). Nice work. Thanks again for giving us insight into your world!

  2. BA J.D. Han. That’s your new name. That IS a great last line and great post from a great writer kicking some cancer ass. On a personal note, I thank you for validating not only my use of swearing here in this comment but in creative writing as well. Sometimes we just have to pardon one another’s French.

  3. Hi JD. It’s Jim. I hope you don’t mind me reading your blog, but I just wanted you to know how amazingly strong both you and your loving husband are (in case you didn’t know that already…). I can totally see why that fuzzy picture of you is James’s favorite. It’s basically how I picture you in my mind’s eye if someone said “Describe Jaclyn.” Smiling and joking with a terrific sense of humor, but with a little bit of an edge when necessary when it is most needed (I clearly appreciate that side as well). Wonderfully Brave of you to write and share your experiences with others. Respect! Weav

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